OCD

This is what OCD looks like in our new roommate. She completely obsesses about (fill in the blank) and when that obsession is satisfied she immediately and without further thought moves on.

For example… she obsesses about item A

Did you

did you

did you

you have to

you have to

if you would ever

I told S he needs to

I need

I need

I need

Did you

We know that she doesn’t need it to be done. It isn’t a priority. It is random and fake and unnecessary. It is also exhausting to listen to. As a high performing person, I am insulted by the constant reminders. I also parent a child that asks me things repetitively and I have really trained myself over the years to be a no means no sort of gal. So same behavior.. different person.. different reaction. Meaning at some point in the chaos of everything else happening I think..

If I just do that she will stop asking.

She is really concerned about that. It will make her feel better if I just do it.

Instead, the reaction is to move to the next topic in mere seconds.

Did you

did you

did you

you have to

you have to

if you would ever

I told S he needs to

I need

I need

I need

Did you

There is no pause. There is no thank you. There is no gratitude or hell.. even any acknowledgment. It is as if the one super important thing she has been nagging me about for days never existed. It evaporated. Replaced with a new thing. Like wac-a-mole. (That’s 201 for all my games people)

All three of us have thrown up our hands in exasperated frustration. We have all felt used and underappreciated. S has even voiced that this is why he ignores her “to-do” lists that she has been writing for years. Working so hard to please someone who is incapable of being pleased is a waste of time and energy. It makes someone incredibly hard to be around. And to live with.

Without question the best thing about this fire is how so many of those ridiculous items on her to do list simply burned up.